Personal Life, Comfort, Enjoyment in America Vs. India

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Coming from a middle class family in India, I am not used to having an air conditioner at home or in the bus…also, never had a car …on a hot summer day, if I travel, I would be almost drenched in sweat…It is quite a different experience living in similar weather conditions in America…I have Air conditioner at home, in the car, in the bus and in any building I enter….quite comfortable life…I am still an average middle class man in America…but, as an individual my life is pretty cozy. Let me share some of my thoughts on personal life, enjoyment and comfort in America comparing with India… this article is part of series Life in America vs. India

Personal Life in US vs. India

In America, your life is very independent…you have full freedom to be the way you want…Privacy is of utmost importance either at home or in a social setting. You do not see people intruding into your personal life, unless you know them very well. You can dress the way you want, travel wherever you want, be passionate about anything you appreciate, etc…Though you are a social being, you are less dependent on others for living your daily life…On the other hand, in India, unless you are from a very affluent society, you are limited by your choices and you are an interdependent human being…you may be barred from doing certain things because of the social implications and taboos…Your choices may be influenced by your peers, family or society because people tend to judge others based on their personal practices and lifestyle…In US, you have the freedom to have a weird lifestyle and not be judged by others…the reality is people do not care much about others lifestyle in US, it is all about individuality…

Physical Comfort in US vs. India

As I mentioned above, you have at most physical comfort everywhere in US….buses, trains, air planes, office buildings, homes, restaurants, shopping centers, etc…You have heaters in cold places and air conditioners in hot places…unless you live in a metro and have good transportation, most people own cars…owning a car is very common…You do not have power cuts…you have so many choices everywhere…I cannot think of anything that creates physical discomfort to me in US as a middle class guy…on the other hand in India, as a middle class guy, I am subjected to physical discomfort in many places buses, trains, shops, etc…I am not talking about upper middle class or rich people…just trying to compare middle class life in US vs. India

Enjoyment in US vs. India

There are so many things to do in US…you are free to do whatever you want without being judged by others…You are free to go to a American football game or to a pub and not be judged…read this article for things to do in USA …Some might like to play board games, some might like to paint, some might like to play guitar, some might like to do archery, some might like to do play cricket, some might like to tell stories, some might like to read books, do skydiving (my experience) etc…whatever your enjoyment activity is, you have a group of people interested in doing similar things and you can find them and enjoy your stuff without being judged by your peers, family and relatives…in India, due to social situations, unless your family and friends circle is care free, open minded, or may be affluent, you may be judged or criticized…Honestly, I would have never even tried to buy guitar, take dance classes, Tae-kwon-do classes, etc …just because my parents may say no, peer pressure and others would judge me…you have much independence to enjoy your life

Decision to live in US vs. India based on Personal preferences

Some people like to live an independent and comfortable life of their own without being judged by others…. some like to live in a social setting with their own cultural beliefs and surrounded by people with similar mindset…If you are in latter category, you are better off to live or settle in India…if not America is your place to live…irrespective of what your preferences are, living in US for some time will give you an understanding or new perspective of things….In all reality, many people settle in America not because they are making more money, but just that life is more independent, comfortable and with many options for their version of enjoyment….

What do you think of Personal life in US vs. India ?

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Andrea September 22, 2014 at 3:40 pm

Not knowing anything about India myself, but the glory of USA isn’t all that great. Yes we are diverse, and have “freedom” but unfortunately we have turned into a narcissistic society and well its more like every man for himself(I guess that is how it is everywhere else). I feel so alone in this place and its almost like there is no way out. There is no cultural bonds or in some cases family bonds. And its really hard seeing the children being dumbed down to where they are mindless robots fueled by media, pop culture, and technology. No offense this is my homeland, but glorified USA isn’t the answer.

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Sujaa September 22, 2014 at 1:43 am

Hey……… I really wish I was far away from India, in some western country, in India the day to day life is very frustrating, everywhere people try to cheat you, from the bus conductors, who will not give you back your change, auto driver who will not ply for the meter, vendors, shops……every where you have to bargain and still you don’t know if they are charging you fair. It is like living in a “Choor Bazaar”, people steal under your nose.

And the work culture be it the MNC’s or any other sector, there is huge politics, any person with moral values or self-respect is brow beaten every day, and any work to get done in a Government office, without bribe nothing will ever happen.

Except for our few loved one’s there is nothing in this country to make me wish to stay in India. Each day there is some issues, some frustrations, it is a daily war.
And the culture is no more the same, nuclear family the norm now, people are materialistic, they have no respect for family values, or the elders, they have no time for anyone but themselves. No wonder most don’t return to India once they are in the west. Good for them. If I get an opportunity, I too may not return to India.

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thelegend September 17, 2014 at 11:18 pm

U r lucky bro that u live in usa wish i was as lucky as u…india is a hell bro..bad weather struggle politics…n worst people who have no other business but to piss others….u r lucky man…the point is hardwork is not a bad thing but exploitation is bad

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Priya August 14, 2014 at 12:54 pm

All the middle class Indians have onlythe pride of working with Indian companies TCS,INFOSYS,WIPRO,COGNIZANT and HCL. These companies are helping poor people to become millonaries and billioanries .Great companies.

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Partho Bijlani September 7, 2014 at 10:58 pm

All these companies hire Indians using B-1 Visa fraud and then allow them to work at lower salaries than the US norm. Having committed visa fraud now these “rich” Indians flaunt their money in the face of others as if they have achieved the American dream. They are no better than the illegals who jump the fence and come here from Latin American countries.

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aditya September 10, 2014 at 3:43 pm

enjoyment is not all about cozyness and luxuries buddy. ..INDIA is all about collective atmosphere, no matter how down we are currently people still like living in an indian society(which according to you is not a luxury) jus because we see true love in people here. ua car, a/c , ua smart phone, is not a, luxury atleast not more than a hot cup of tea from ya mom or wife when u really have a head ache(u might like going to a nearest starbucks for an artificial drink by throwing a dollar or two). So u guys anyways are not doing any favour to indian economy (coz u earn and live AMERICAN ), atleast try not to post such irresponsible comments, which MOTHER INDIA is ashamed of(now please go to bed by turning on ua AIR CONDITIONER when millions of INDIANS are asleep not even knowing when was the last time they had their meal)

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Harsh September 16, 2014 at 11:29 am

You are the problem that the author of this article highlights when he says judging peers. The author has made it very obvious that Indians like the personal independence when they decide to settle there. Still, you go on commenting using words like Mother India. Who are you to teach anyone about what Mother India means? You do not even have the decency to read the complete article. And have reacted selectively to some parts of it.

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Mayur August 8, 2014 at 11:53 pm

Sorry but I do not agree with you. I have roam around the globe. Definitely, there are things different across the globe and better than India in the perspective of infrastructure.

But really the way you have underestimated life in India. Below are best things in India not present in any other country

1. Gifted weather across India for all 12 month.

– No Ozone leak problem like in AU, UK and some part of US where direct Sun
ray burns your screen :)
– No snow fall problem like in other countries which affects the life officially and socially as well in US, JP, AU during winters :)

2. PUBS ? Are you mad or what ? I dont think you have visited India from last 20 yrs. I go to disc and pubs on every week in Mumbai Pune. Do not say that I do not know disc and pub in New York or Melbourne :)

3. Malls for rich people — are you fool ? People will laugh at you man come on. Many malls in every lane ha ha.. you will get all brands clothes

4. You can live in your own life in US and not in India. There are dance classes, I am good enough in Salsa, Guitar, I am expert in Cricket, TT and many more. I am visiting many places in India. Still counting. Now do not say only good place are in US not in India…ha.. ha. This thing I am saying because I have seen complete eastern coach of US, Naigara fall, Washington, Boston, atlantic city. It’s your perception that you can visit good places in US only. I felt in love of many place in India Taj Mahal, Ajanta erola, Himalaya, Rajstan and many more. Come on change your statement.

5. The education system or competition is not good enough across the globe except few places. But in India, people are competitive. I have seen many indians born in India are leading corporate across the globe. Your child would more clever in india than any other country.

6. I think you born in some village and directly took flight for US before 20 yrs without understanding complete India. So keep your perception yourself.

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Guys I do not like such people who shows wrong picture. Definitely you should go to US / AU / Japan / UK live sometime understand it. But I bet you that you will finding India is the best place to live your complete life if you are able to make good enough money.

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Sneha August 14, 2014 at 4:08 pm

very well said Mayur, I am definitely with you in this, I have been living in the US for last 9 years and still do not like it here. I have no choice, as I am living with the family, but once am finish with my career I am definitely out to settle in india.

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Abhishek Saxena September 4, 2014 at 2:41 am

Very Mayur. I am agree with you.

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Sunny August 19, 2014 at 7:43 am

1) There is an Ozone Leak problem in India for sure. Yes!! Tell me do u see green grasslands or gardens on roadsides? do u see Parks etc in localities?No. No greenery at all. (Just in posh areas or costly localities in few cities)

2) Pubs?? r u serious? Out of 1600 cities here how many have Pubs? i guess just 20-30. And Can a Common man’s income afford a Pub at a weekend? Indian youngsters r just busy affording Petrol(so costly) in their Hero Honda and doing over time!

3) Infrastructure is wholly shit here, even in big Cities roads are congested and unplanned as hell! Just few cities like Delhi or Chennai r good..that also at few points, and rest is same Crap infrastructure!

4) Income scale is so low here. In USA Even a waiter can afford a car with his 3 months salary and branded clothes etc and can have fun with his family. Here in India even an engineer cannot earn that much to earn even a Car or an A.C for whole LIfe….forget abt other small jobs!those employees live in hell hole.

5) And Yes Malls r just for Rich! In USA even a man with basic salary can go to a mall and buy branded quality stuff for him! In India basic salary in cities for common people is 8000-10000. Can u afford things in this income when u have a family?? India’s income is super low and inflation is on sky always.

6) And electricity here is shit!! Low voltage in villages and small cities (more than 1000 small cities) and in Big cities also we face long Power cuts in hottest summers.

Yes if u have money u can a good life here…. But how many earn good here? More than 75 % educated people are living on an average income of Rs. 8000 in Indian cities. Common man’s life here is Hell and Decaying.

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Sujit August 28, 2014 at 7:27 am

crap

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Sujit August 28, 2014 at 7:35 am

The author has a strong point comparing the quality of life of a middle class person in the two countries.
In India travelling in comfort on the local trains or buses is far from comfortable. Driving your 10 lakh car on a pot hole infested road is no fun. Having no transperency and excess corruption in the government, education etc is not a problem the middle class face in the west.
Indian towns and cities have poor law and order. Just look around at the number of hoodlums from political parties driving like morons on the road and throwing tbeir weight around. You dont see that in the west.
A couple of years back in MangLore, girls were assaulted by some political party for being in a pub.
Just earning money at any cost is the mantra in India. However, a good income equals good purchasing power, not a higher quality of life. Understand the difference.

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Harsh September 16, 2014 at 11:39 am

Did you see the video of ram sena activist beating the shit out of women in a pub in mangalore. Taking up guitar and dance and the likes, was welcome in few metros and now a spreading phenomenon. (Saying with a smirk) not so much in cities other than metros, which are 4 in number. Even if you include immigrant cities like Bangalore or Pune. The number comes to 6. Go on add 4 more to it. It still makes a grand total of 10 cities in a big country like India.
The point the author is trying to make is that you can live an independent life anywhere in USA. What is wrong with some criticism? In the name of looking at few positives, you can’t accept a larger reality? What’s the shame in doing that? No sentence in the article berates Indians or life in India.. But you go on to use words like fool and what not. Hahahaha what an irony? That you are giving a lecture on how people like the author should not be encouraged while you loose all decency while making your point.

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Savvy September 18, 2014 at 8:19 am

Very well said Mayur..I am totally agree with you…I visited US many time still I always want to live in India…
I think only factor that most of the people are in US to earn more money..
Personally I feel I was always very comfortable in India then US..Soon I will move back to my loving country…

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santosh September 27, 2014 at 7:20 pm

I completely agree with you. Life in India is LIFE. in US it is just business. No social life. No friends for life. No love and trust in family. I just love LIFE in india. Its colourful. I have lived in europe and US and never liked it. Its like they say other side of the hill is always green.

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gaurav July 29, 2014 at 2:56 pm

first of all I appreciate the the way you written but would you think difference in the salary of indan and American working people

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Shubham Prajapat June 29, 2014 at 12:32 am

Hello! Can anyone tell me ? How much money will i need if i do company secretary in America! Tell me sum of expenses of living + food.

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harshil April 26, 2014 at 1:11 am

hey guys …..i m still in +2 …m a huminism student …..after completing +2 i wish to study further in U.S …plese sugget me in which field i have to take focus …as i want to make money in my life….n i really like ur above discussion as it also helps me to make my mind to go U.S.A

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Shruti May 30, 2014 at 9:35 pm

Hi Harshil, if you want to major in fields that offer a good amount of money, you can definitely try out for Electrical & Communication Engineering OR Computer science & Engineering OR Mechanical engineering, etc.
It basically depends on the field which YOU are interested in (:

Hope it helped C:

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Anon March 13, 2014 at 7:00 am

Why don’t we just stop comparing our culture!!! You people are bloody fools to do that!! Why can’t we live happily ‘TOGETHER’ than to create rifts between us!! People are changing. Indians are adopting the American culture and Americans are adopting the Indian culture! Just stop this!!

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troy March 31, 2014 at 8:05 am

well that explains that you are an indian too, if not, maybe a person so emotionally attached to indians……chill buddy, its just opinions, no one can be controlled from making opinions

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mahan June 6, 2014 at 6:58 pm

Hi.I’m Iranian,but your opinion is perfect.I’m completely agree with u

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mamad June 6, 2014 at 10:25 pm

kolan Irani jamat ezhare nazar nakone 1 ja engari 1 chizi azash kam mishe ! :D

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M.k June 7, 2014 at 12:27 am

WHATS WRONG WITH U MAN? @MAMAD
U MAKING FUN OF MAHAN?

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tarun March 8, 2014 at 11:31 am

Hey guys can any one tell me how much does it cost to do masters in USA and how many years would it take to pay back the loan(INR_3000000).

And thanks for that

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Anna March 13, 2014 at 1:57 pm

I enjoyed reading this article. I have always been interested in how other cultural lifestyles differ from me living as a mid thirty, middle class, Caucasian woman, living in the US all my life. I have never had extra money to travel far but hopeful one day I will have money to go outside US to learn from other cultures. In the southern community I reside, I have never seen an Indian person except on TV. I am sure they are around but I have personally never seen one. I am curious to how east Indians live combining Indian culture with US culture. Are there specific rituals you perform daily that differ from non-Indian Americans? I see that most Indians come here feeling free and independent to do, say, and live as they wish. I have lived in the US all my life and I have never felt or lived life that way. I was very overprotected and sheltered by my parents and now by my husband. How do Indians raise their children different from US parents? As a majority, are Indians more well mannered and quiet people or are they mostly outgoing and always celebrating something?

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Jyoti June 29, 2014 at 4:26 pm

Hello Anna, It was nice to know that you are curious about Indians. I am an Indian living in LA. Majority of the Indians you find in USA are well educated & mannered people. However, the same is not true back in India. Ours is a conservative culture though these days things started changing. As far as the content of this article goes, it is the experience of an Indian in USA but actual opinion of a USA middle class person can only be compared to make the comparison even.

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Ritwik March 6, 2014 at 5:37 am

A study by the University of California-Berkeley determined that fully one-third of the engineers in the tech hub of Silicon Valley are of Indian descent, while 7 percent of high-tech companies are led by Indian chief executives.

More than 300,000 Indian-Americans work in the field of information Technology, while another 200,000 are millionaires, according to data from Merrill Lynch.

On the whole, Indian-Americans have an aggregate purchasing power of at least $25 billion (a figure larger than scores of whole countries’ GDPs).

Perhaps most astounding, almost 10 percent of the physicians in the U.S. are of Indian origin. Consider that for a moment — Indians, who represent barely 1 percent of the total American population, account for one-in-ten of its doctors, perhaps the most prestigious and difficult career to obtain.

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Raj February 16, 2014 at 2:21 pm

Haha its so hilarious to read these comments. If you are the typical south indian wanting to come to America don’t listen to this trype. Typical south indian man living in America’ s life: work dead end it job, never get any girls because they are disgusted by you, import homely girl from south india. Rinse, repeat. If i was the typical south indian guy i would stay in india! The physical comforts will be less but you will lead a rich life surrounded by loving family!

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Aneesh March 3, 2014 at 1:06 am

I am to travel for the first time in another week.
I have an average or say decent pay here in India, I have a beautiful wife whom I proposed and got married to, I have a huge house in a heritage society, I have a car, I live in one of the finest localities in Mumbai, have all the necessities (mostly bought myself), I enjoy great respect in my current team, have been an ace performer, I never step out of air conditioning, go to the best of the restaurants and clubs in Mumbai, I do whatever I want to here, and, I really don’t get disgusted by the smell and sight of certain things in India. Instead, feel a duty towards setting these things right. And, yes .. I play the guitar, drive like a professional. Now, I have got been asked to go on role in one of the finest locations in the US … Florida. I never asked my manager to send me onsite .. instead he wants me to go and learn. And, that is how I see it. Learn, the business better, grow as a professional.
I am from a middle class working family .. have sweated out for a greater part of my life, struggled in school, engineering, mba, initially in my job as well. Struggled a lot in my personal life .. still do at times. But I am content. Even if all the luxuries I have are taken away from me .. I’d still be content. I am from north, have lived in Chennai, worked with people from Chennai .. and I was very much happy there .. never complained. At times when I visit my saints in Rajasthan .. I live without electricity and sleep on floor just like everybody else these. But I never feel discomfort there.
I have a very open mind. When I am going to the US. Want to be the best there as well. Want to meet new people, learn about the culture, add on to my personality and way of thinking.
Do I intend to stay in US forever .. I don’t think so .. I go without any intent as such. On the other hand, planning far never works for me.
Do not agree to most comments here. Don’t know what enjoyment and comfort US has to offer me .. definitely looking forward to it.

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troy March 31, 2014 at 8:09 am

its good to be in your own boat boy if you feel US is good for you, be there, if not than i believe your country fits you best,

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Bizarre Guy February 9, 2014 at 7:59 am

Hey guys, I would like to say that America is better than India for those who want to live independent lifestyle. No one is going to laugh at you even if you choose to get jobs like babysitting while in college to earn some extra cash. There are more college dropout selfmade billionaires and high school dropout selfmade millionaires in America than any other countries in the world because America has the freedom to think and brainstorming ideas that make an income.

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rajan nateshan August 17, 2014 at 11:31 pm

yes, i liked comments very much , thats the difference over here in india one who is uneducated is treated like a dog over here, difference between religious people ,

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Krishna December 22, 2013 at 6:35 pm

Well, Why did I come here to US? The only answer from anyone is a universal truth and it is “Let me make some money”. Ohh yeah. But why can’t you make money India? After all, look at the figure of number of billionaires that India has produced! They are still in India and set examples of how to make money in India. So is our answer still valid?? No. If not money, is it comfort!?? Feeling it as comfort while you shiver in the snowfall and storms! Being harassed with racist comments! Being frightened to wander around the streets in the evening!
Lifestyle is pretty awesome here, wakeup man!? waiting for your girl child to find a boyfriend as early as possible!? Telling your mother to go to hospital when she is sick and you enjoying the late night clubs at the same time!?
God damn! I was emotional, I’m emotional and I’ll be emotional… If I can’t bring changes in India for better life on the whole, let me be a part of it to initiate the change.. “Nenu saitham prapanchagniki samdihanokkatti ahutichanu”

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Pranav February 7, 2014 at 7:45 am

I lived in the US all my life but was born in india, and life here is not all about making money. It’s about living in a better place. A place to be independent. To drive yourself around from place to place. To have your children get things by themselves instead of a servant getting them stuff. Not be in a place where people treat you based on caste, clothing, or your salary. Letting your children find there own spouse instead of you getting someone random your child never met before from a “respectable” family. Snow is something that people really like and can be pretty fun family time. Girls wanting boyfriends is actually just as or even more worse in India. I’ve lived in the south, north, and west and have never experienced a single racist comment. The comment about going to a nightclub when your mother is sick is just down right stupid. When i was little and me and my parents took a vacation to India I held the door in a hotel for some people. In the US, if someone held a door, we would say thank you and even hold the door instead of letting a child do it. At the hotel, about 10 people passed. No one cared to say ty and no one held the door. At least for me, the United States is more of a home than India will ever be.

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Sandeep February 11, 2014 at 5:26 pm

Ya, you could go to india where people’s minds are influenced by the shitty nonsense caste system. also you could have comfort in the overcrowded and smelly streets and the scorching heat. wanna get a dream job? well you’re options in india is a doctor or IT because if you get another job people will think wrongly about because your profession isn’t respectable.In terms of society, welcome to the 19th century! Have fun living amongst gossiping idiots! Now what about the youth? they try to “copy” the US which is just a more liberal place. But of course the indian youth has to go ove board! Most people in the US drink alcohol at 21 and over, then i should drink at 14 in india! No respect or rights for women. Hope you like being under the constant threat of rape and harassment! If your a female, you cant do 90% of the things that men can do because what will society think. And also you should come to India for the pleasant sights such as beggars with missing limbs. Bureacracy also runs free! dont upset the guy that knows a politician or you’ll get beat up and you cant take legal action because of the corrupt government. If you’re scared of walking thought the clean scenic neighborhood of the US, then i dont know how youll feel of the trashy smelly streets populated with shady people. and you can go to india if your too lazy to do anything! there are probably hundreds of things left to talk about but you get the idea.

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reena April 28, 2014 at 1:04 am

there r certain pros n cons to live in every country but mr. sandeep i will tell u something just have some respect for ur motherland becoz now u r talking foul about ur country but these same americans will spit same things on ur face. dont forget that u belong to same stingy land

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Suraj July 27, 2014 at 5:32 am

He may have used the wrong tone, but he does have a point. India is not a paradise, there are some aspects of India that are good, but unfortunately most arent.

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Sunny August 19, 2014 at 7:55 am

What does Motherland means? Country is not God or sumthing sacred okey..
Countries r just boundaries. God didn’t make boundaries, God made all Land same, all over the Earth and gave it humans to live on it. But we made countries and boundaries to divide it for better governance!

Basically its all same Earth we live on. If land is ur Mother, Whole Earth is ur mother, not India alone..u can live where ever u want to.

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Geetha August 23, 2014 at 2:11 pm

Hi America loving guys, Do u know in India we are having much much more tension free owners, but in America u have more tensed employees who r working for corporate. People who r selfish love America, people loves others and their family loves to live in India. In america they r having big and good parks to play but no friends, but in India no parks, but lots of friends to play. Those who wants to play single player game u go to America, those who wants to play in group stays in India.

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Priya December 17, 2013 at 7:35 am

FYI an IT professional is not a middle class man in either US or India.

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Umesh December 1, 2013 at 6:38 pm

Hello Amit
I think you have opened up a very good discussion. For people like us, who have seen both the worlds, it is very difficult to imagine to give up one for the other. Our family ties are with India and our brain ties are with USA. We always with the best of both the world for our kids. That’s why we try to stand with one leg on Indian boat and other on the USA boat. I am sure that until challenged by real life situation, like if our parents fall sick or if they need our help, we will have to give up and choose a boat. Until then, we all want to delay the real decision. We do not realize now but, this is like changing the track of train for to distant locations. Although, at the time of change it looks very simple and minor change, over the years ..it would be totally two different destinations from which reversal would be impossible. So.. we need to decide sooner than later.

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Amit January 15, 2014 at 5:40 pm

Umesh, I completely agree with you. Change by itself is simply packing your stuff and moving back home. But to actually do that takes lots of guts. More you think about, less likely you will decide now! I am just back from my 8 weeks vacation back home and am fresh on it. Just to open a simple bank account took 3 visits with different set of docs. To obtain power of attorney for my dad, it took us a week, extra money and lot of time. Traffic is a hell with 2+ hrs for less than 30 kms of travel. We did enjoy attending 2 weddings, some functions, family time, awesome tasty food… mmm.. lovely! But if I think of working there and commuting through that traffic daily, it will cut down my time for family. Truly speaking, I am not yet decided on taking one track over other.. and as you said, it will get only more difficult with time.

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Real Indian November 30, 2013 at 2:04 pm

I love my Country. There is no strange in that words by any citizen of their own country. When You Say I Love other Country , thats the greatness of that country where that country provides the best for you. Live in US( 15 to 20 Yrs) and then Settle in India. Its my plan….

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Amit January 15, 2014 at 5:28 pm

That is very easily said than done! Living in US for 15-20 yrs means your kids will be in teens by then and will have their own say to it. Then its not your decision, but decision of family. All the best with that, dear friend.. :)

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Gourab Banerjee October 18, 2013 at 2:27 am

Hi, I completed my graduation in mass comm from Sikkim Manipal University… Now I want to study in USA! What should i do?? I need serious help.

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Amit October 5, 2013 at 8:11 pm

Let me tell something about life in India (specially Mumbai, being a Mumbaikar by heart) and life in USA. I grew up in a middle class family with no AC in home, no car and living in apartment in a suburb of Mumbai. The sweaty, crowded and fast paced life was something I truly enjoyed. Even though I am Gujju, I never thought of coming to USA. Joined a big IT firm in mid 90s without even a passport. :) Being ‘forced’ to come to USA due to career path opened up new aspect in life. Here, life is very peaceful, comfortable. I was determined to go back to India and after living here for 3 yrs went back. Due to work matter, had to make few short trips to USA, but finally gave up extending my visa and stayed in India for more than a year. Thats when I realized I was now ‘addicted’ to free-work culture in USA. I started to hate micro-managed work culture in Indian company where I was told to make my team slog hrs. I gave up on it and again returned to work in USA. After years of not accepting to apply, I finally applied and now received green card. I enjoy my life in USA, but there is this emptiness that gets filled only for those 6-7 weeks every two yrs when I visit my parents/relatives back in India. gosh!! I so much miss them and Mumbai city. When I was there, I missed USA for its comfy life and talent driven work.

After living in USA for almost 15 yrs, my heart still longs to be in India and brain keeps pulling it back to USA. I have my wife/kid and live a satisfied life here, then why there is still this void in my heart? Maybe I am still a Mumbaikar at heart, maybe I am being emotional, maybe its nature saying grass is always green on the other side. Problem is that I love both the countries for its own reason and miss other while I am in one. Sometimes I feel am I really lucky to be in USA or would I be luckier had I not ‘tasted’ the life in USA?

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Cd October 6, 2013 at 12:22 am

Sir ur feelings are very well penned down here. It seems true and very emotional. Thanks for sharing.

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AMIT October 6, 2013 at 11:45 am

Thanks Cd. I just hope to save at least one emotional heart from sacrificing its ties back in India to live a comfortable life in USA.

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Good one October 6, 2013 at 1:06 pm

really emotional one…touched my heart!!

i actually belong to X state and now living in Y state in india for job purpose…

i feel almost same, when i think of my own state within same country.. :( :(

now applied for H1.. donno how i will live in USA…

jus tears in eyes at this moment…as i have to leave my mom and travel so long :(

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Amit October 6, 2013 at 10:21 pm

Well.. in that case, think very well before coming to USA. Just extrapolate the feeling that you have living in a different state in India and then add the complexity of paper works, tickets, distance, etc. Wish you the very best for future, buddy. Take care.

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Nilesh S. August 6, 2014 at 12:52 pm

I am also in US since 3 years.. I am the only child of my parents. We are a lower middle class family and my parent spend a lot of efforts in motivating me and money in educating me in India. My father has a heart blockage and mother also has some minor but several health problems. I know they can see doctor in India. But you imagine if something happens to your parents and then by the time you are there in a rush they are not able to see you… then was US worth it? The time you had spent with your parents in India rather than enjoying here in US… wouldnt that have got counted?… You live life only once and your parents also once only in your lifetime.. once gone they will never come back again.. I saw a movie.. Bombay Boyz.. but bit different type movie.. but funny one.. it had one senti dialgoue told to Rahul Bose by a Mumbaikar when he comes from USA after a long time and realized what he missed.. “The grass was not greener on the other side … was it?” with a smirk…

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Bharat July 25, 2014 at 9:51 am

Very nicely expressed. Most of the people who have decent lifestyle in India and who wants to experience life in USA for a change, I believe will get into such confusion. When we are here, our friends and cousins leave the country and we tend to have that lifestyle experience, hoping therez something exsiting there, but when we actually go there, we realise life is comfortable in india and we only realise this when we are back, I wanted to understand if this feeling fades away if you live in india again for a year or so rather than just visiting for couple of weeks. You want to come back because you think therez lots happening in India and you are missing all the fun, but when u are here ,everythign looks same again, not so exciting as you expected when you were there and you start missing the life you lived in USA. So if you ponder over this for sometime, Its all about expectations, But i feel, if u have ur own house, car and 12-15LPA life is great here.

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Mohit October 19, 2013 at 10:15 pm

I agree with you Amit, I’m on the same boat, but have you ever thought about parents, will they come and live with you, will they like US?

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Amit October 20, 2013 at 10:14 pm

Mohit, as of now, my parents visit us for 6 months every 2-3 yrs. But I know they may not be ready to live in USA for good. That is my biggest dilemma. There are some decisions in life that are best left on God to decide with time.

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Sharath September 24, 2013 at 9:49 am

hi
I am an Indian, and proud to be an Indian.
No country in the world can be like another country. ie, India can never be US, also US cannot become India. Each country has its own cultural, social, financial back ground. Its true that in India privacy is less. But I dont think that it is bad. What do we mean by privacy? Dont caring for any others? being a social being we need to care others also.

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VINIT September 5, 2013 at 10:53 am

i am a Indian person…………but truly i really wanna live in america………..america is my dream……it Dosen’t mean i hate India………..it just mean i like their rules and regulation……………

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Amelia @ chai a cup of life September 5, 2013 at 12:03 am

Its really nice to read someone writing from the ‘other side’. I am Australian and living in India..so I can certainly relate to you!! I don’t think either way of living is better, it’s just different. If you can experience both ways of living, then you’re a lucky person :-)
(you can check out my experiences in india!!! Amelia http://www.chaiacupoflife.com )

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Gunit July 11, 2013 at 12:14 pm

Hi.
Thanks alot, Keith. I’m still thinking about the merits, and demerits. And as far as I think, USA is the right place for me. I’ve got relatives out there in Arizona and I guess that’ll be good enough if I face problems in States. I’ll speak to the attorney, and try to get the details.

Gunit

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anitha September 29, 2013 at 10:47 am

Honestly gunit, go to USA out of ur own merit and even if u face problems do not think relatives will be always there to help u.u will be shocked to know people’s true colors.despite all the comfort and lifestyle there is a high chance u might feel lonely or u relatives might not even care about u.this is not coming from my own experience but i know so many people who faced the same!

just be prepared for anything,keep an open mind and DO NOT HAVE EXPECTATIONS from others..

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Gunit March 16, 2014 at 11:46 am

Hey Anitha, just read the comment, wasn’t active since months. Sorry for the late reply. And I totally agree with you. Universities offer accommodations and I think that’ll be a better option. I am now preparing for SAT and TOEFL. But I have this horrible fear about the admissions in the top universities. I didn’t score well in class 11, which actually scares the hell out of me. Can ya pls help me out with this one? Are these marks taken into consideration by all universities?

Thanks
Gunit

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shiven June 30, 2013 at 8:02 am

india rocks…..mera bharat mahan!!

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Gunit June 18, 2013 at 10:29 pm

Everyone’s preferring USA over India. To live an independent life, obviously USA suits the best but life is States is very hectic as well as busy. I’ve got 2 years to think over it, as in after 12th I want to study in USA. I’m too confused and baffled, looking forward for some good suggestions.
Thanks
Gunit

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Keith July 8, 2013 at 2:05 am

Gunit,

If you are financially sound, it is a good option. You can go to school and have fun. If you plan on working while doing so, it is a very difficult proposition.

The culture shock will take a year or two to go away. People in states like Texas and southern parts are friendly and willing to help. But in major cities like New York City and Los Angeles, hospitality might be lower.

If your English is sub-par, it will be a struggle.

Depending on the type of your visa, you might have to go back. It will be hard to go back after you are accustomed to everything this nation offers.

Good luck with your decision. Peace.

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yogesh pradhan April 17, 2013 at 2:58 pm

india will be like usa if its popullation would reduce by 70 crore.

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Monu-G June 24, 2013 at 11:47 am

Describe to me how India will be just like the US if the population was far less.

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Bangalorean September 13, 2013 at 9:36 am

India can never be US at any cost. Even if India’s population is half that of US (which is a biggest joke) India cannot be US.

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H.R.C September 20, 2013 at 1:22 pm

Well u never know my friend….it could be possible , u cant just say no ….

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Hemanta March 21, 2013 at 12:32 pm

Obiously man ! Life in usa is pretty grt, do whatever u like . While in india u cant do much coz our parents thing study is the way to get settle . absolutely its true we should hav education , but tht doesnt mean we hav to be a doctor / engineer for tht .some hav there own interest and want to go other ways other than studies . So parents come in the middle and force us to go in opposite way thts the huge difference between india and us if we talk in terms of student life

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Saurav vyas March 3, 2013 at 11:34 pm

Hi..i am an indian & i want to be make a english singer & i think my singing voice is great As my all friends & teachers said that..
I am 20 years old & want to go U.S.A….
Please tell me what should i do….?

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Saurav vyas March 3, 2013 at 11:26 pm

Thanks for that.

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Rekha February 22, 2013 at 3:08 pm

All Problems of India will be solved and it will be indeed the best country to live, ONLY IF it finds solutions to the following problems:-

1.)Reservation on the basis of cast
2.)A basic sense of civic sense
3.)Respect & fear of Law and order
4.)Speedy trials in courts
5.)Political interference in almost everything

Yes it’s only these if someone points more problems one will find that those problems are offshoots of these core five problems which I have mentioned

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sunil March 28, 2013 at 3:13 am

I agree with you. But how and when it is going to happen?

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Indian Assault September 20, 2013 at 1:48 pm

India will also improve if people start implementing what they preach and write.

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Sandeep February 11, 2014 at 5:36 pm

6) Dirty
7) Polluted
8) Bureaucracy
9) Corruption
10) conservative society

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Joshua T. Sharrow February 15, 2013 at 5:59 pm

Really I appreciate for you writing. Here you described many common differences between India and USA life.Idia’s check issue, that you described, really a great issue for students.

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