Enjoy life in USA vs India personal comfort

Personal Life, Comfort, Enjoyment in America Vs. India

In Return to India by KumarUpdated : 423 Comments

Coming from a middle class family in India, I am not used to having an air conditioner at home or in the bus…also, never had a car …on a hot summer day, if I travel, I would be almost drenched in sweat…It is quite a different experience living in similar weather conditions in America…I have Air conditioner at home, in the car, in the bus and in any building I enter….quite comfortable life…I am still an average middle class man in America…but, as an individual my life is pretty cozy. Let me share some of my thoughts on personal life, enjoyment and comfort in America comparing with India… this article is part of series Life in America vs. India

Personal Life in US vs. India

In America, your life is very independent…you have full freedom to be the way you want…Privacy is of utmost importance either at home or in a social setting. You do not see people intruding into your personal life, unless you know them very well. You can dress the way you want, travel wherever you want, be passionate about anything you appreciate, etc…Though you are a social being, you are less dependent on others for living your daily life…On the other hand, in India, unless you are from a very affluent society, you are limited by your choices and you are an interdependent human being…you may be barred from doing certain things because of the social implications and taboos…Your choices may be influenced by your peers, family or society because people tend to judge others based on their personal practices and lifestyle…In US, you have the freedom to have a weird lifestyle and not be judged by others…the reality is people do not care much about others lifestyle in US, it is all about individuality…

Physical Comfort in US vs. India

As I mentioned above, you have at most physical comfort everywhere in US….buses, trains, air planes, office buildings, homes, restaurants, shopping centers, etc…You have heaters in cold places and air conditioners in hot places…unless you live in a metro and have good transportation, most people own cars…owning a car is very common…You do not have power cuts…you have so many choices everywhere…I cannot think of anything that creates physical discomfort to me in US as a middle class guy…on the other hand in India, as a middle class guy, I am subjected to physical discomfort in many places buses, trains, shops, etc…I am not talking about upper middle class or rich people…just trying to compare middle class life in US vs. India

Enjoyment in US vs. India

There are so many things to do in US…you are free to do whatever you want without being judged by others…You are free to go to a American football game or to a pub and not be judged…read this article for things to do in USA …Some might like to play board games, some might like to paint, some might like to play guitar, some might like to do archery, some might like to do play cricket, some might like to tell stories, some might like to read books, do skydiving (my experience) etc…whatever your enjoyment activity is, you have a group of people interested in doing similar things and you can find them and enjoy your stuff without being judged by your peers, family and relatives…in India, due to social situations, unless your family and friends circle is care free, open minded, or may be affluent, you may be judged or criticized…Honestly, I would have never even tried to buy guitar, take dance classes, Tae-kwon-do classes, etc …just because my parents may say no, peer pressure and others would judge me…you have much independence to enjoy your life

Decision to live in US vs. India based on Personal preferences

Some people like to live an independent and comfortable life of their own without being judged by others…. some like to live in a social setting with their own cultural beliefs and surrounded by people with similar mindset…If you are in latter category, you are better off to live or settle in India…if not America is your place to live…irrespective of what your preferences are, living in US for some time will give you an understanding or new perspective of things….In all reality, many people settle in America not because they are making more money, but just that life is more independent, comfortable and with many options for their version of enjoyment….

What do you think of Personal life in US vs. India ?

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Comments ( 423 )

  1. Ruchi

    Where is the luxury? Is it when you return BK home ,no one is there to give you hot food,make hot rotis for you.if both husband wife are working.luxury for men if the poor women after work they come back home to clean the house,washroom,and prepare meals,and wait for the weekends to do grocery shopping and they get time to visit a mall for a while.can you eat food everyday outside.at see places in US it’s so cold when you have to hold the grocery packets in -28 …and get all one by one ..who is there to help.is this luxury.India has progressed a lot.I am talking about big cities,where u have tremendous opportunities.with a credit of yr family,festivals,,domestic help,time for yrself,time for yr old parents,spending time with friends,celeberating festivals with yr neighbours and friends and family.someone to care of your children at home if u have to go out.Not paying more than half of yr salary to care taker if u r calling at home.Having hot meals with the entirely family,this is the real happiness and luxury

  2. Ruchi

    I like what Diya said,it is affcourse one,s own choice where to live.I believe in living a king”s life.My family people around me.I like to have a more happy and lively surrounding,which no doubt you can experience all this in India.Happiness is definitely lacking here.You can afford to buy whatever you want here,u can wear the best brands,but who is there to even compliment you.No one.Little little things in life create happiness.Festivals in India,are so lively…I miss all the the street decorations during Diwali.Sometimes I feel missing out lot of things and life each day is passing by here…with just job house work on weekends and getting tired.

  3. Rajiv Sorna

    I like how you used the term “social being” compared to “social animal”. That says a lot about your thoughts and insights and shows that they are dependable.

  4. Arif

    It is a blessing to be from majority community wherever you want to live, other wise there could be security, isolation and social issues,.

  5. Arif

    Your conclusion is correct however I see that even those who like to live in a social setting with their own cultural beliefs and surrounded by people with similar mindset prefer to live in US because of social security and easy accessibility to comfortable lifestyle. Infact I had this option to live in US but did not take it and continued to live in Gulf and like to retire soon to live in India. But it seems to be impossible to save for early retirement though.

  6. XYZ

    I don’t know what people think when they talk about progress. Do they talk about individual or a social environment. Talking about progress people say India must progress and so their people they say to leave custom and be free minded. I say to them really are you talking about progress but i don’t see any progress see statics in divorce in rape in child pregnancy in child abuse etc. You will notice that people talking about progress has not changed themselves yet but ironically they want to change Society every culture has it’s own pros and cons you can’t judge social life of a country with others. Living in a country depends upon your own choices some people like freedom some don’t some like to care some don’t doesn’t matter it lies within themselves not to society but if you want a change then start with yourself then to your family then come to society then to nation

  7. Rjp

    I love India but I respect USA people there are real Patriots. They have guts to screw people’s or even nations who harm there country. People’s are friendly and life is Independent. Yes you will need to wash your dishes after work, but that’s good they are smart enough to clean there own mess, having employees in India for cleaning your mess, I look at it as exploitation of poor by one having money unless you pay them fair share of there work. But mostly we pay less than people deserve coz we earn less and quality is comprised. Also it’s about attitude of people’s in India and in USA in India most people constantly live in fear of someone interfering there personal life. But good thing about India is love and family and extended family who will be there when you need them. Also people’s in India love to share and adjust still being happy. So it’s personal preference where one wants to go. India or USA if it makes you Happy that’s it

    1. bal

      I lived in US for there years and moved back to India (Bangalore) and coudn’t adjust there and now I am back to US

      Life in India became so hard these days.

      Money:
      Even if we get 1 lakh take home, 20k goes for rent, 30k goes for two kids education and the remaining 50k goes for monthly expenses . you will save nothing
      Here in US, if you get 6k dollars per month, you can spend 3k as monthly expeness and can happily save 3k. i.e 2l INR which you can’t imagine ever in india

      Roads/Traffic

      Roads are pathetic in india..traffic is horrible..no way can be compared to US roads and traffic sense. Here automated cars and easy driving.can drive continuously happily with no tension

      Office hours

      Most of the projects are from US and hence you need to spend long hours in the night in office and you have hardly any time to play with kids. Here in US, will reach home by 5 and then can play with kids, go to gym or go anywhere you want

      Kids:

      Schools are worst and purely money based..Here education is free till high school. they speak good english, learning so many things ..they play at community neighbourhood happily from 5 pm to 8 pm..It’s not possible in india.Here public libraries for kids, play areas..what not..kids have best life here

      infrastructure:

      Water, power, internet are perfect with no breaks unless india.

  8. TERA BAAP

    GOTO GERMANY!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

  9. Notneeded

    just because i was born there, i cannot argue a bad environment to be the best place. I would not mind moving to a good place for the betterment of my own family. Can I stay and fight the issues in bad place, no, that is too much work to be done in our life time. Bad people have to change themselves.

    1. DR PRASHANT

      Yes you are right.But here in india people are uneducated and poor in villages whereas in cities living conditions are not good- no space , garbage , poor civic amenities .I have completed MBBS from reputed college in india but i am in dilemma whether it is a good idea to prepare for USMLE for MD from USA.I am not sure if i would be able to live all alone in USA with family back in india .What do you say – can one manage living all alone in USA .

  10. Notneeded

    Gosh, India is terrible. Too much poverty everywhere and every one has a terrible problem of their own, How can you see a person suffering outside restaurant even for a basic necessity or food and you can enjoy eating inside? In USA you would rarely see the extreme end of poverty. you can live peacefully in USA. Government assures safety and security of every one. Roads are very safe. In india if you let your kid drive a motorcycle, until he reaches home you cannot sleep peacefully. This happens every single day. you may call me a pessimistic guy but that is the truth.

  11. prajwal Chandane

    india is wonderful country but many things are taboos and influencing society but in usa many natural things are independent and full freedom their people life

  12. Diya Dey

    Wherever life is more luxurious I would love to stay there. And living abroad for several years for me I think luxury is in India cause I can afford lot of things here that I couldn’t in USA. I live a king size life here with grand house, big car, full time maids, cook, nanny, driver etc etc .. Life is so easy for mr here. Plus I get to live near my parents, siblings, cousins.. Weddings, functions, festivals are all so much fun here. And talking about food.. the Indian food in US can never ever match the Indian food in India obviously and being born and brought up in India I sure crave for Indian food and street food.
    If anyone who is ok to stay away from family and friends and can afford the luxuries in US.. They will definitely love it in America.
    So it’s all individual preferences that’s it 😊😊

  13. Prajjwal Bhardwaj

    Hahahahaha…..

    Well friends….Let me clearify you about USA and India..

    If you are from middle family than your income will be from 15000 INR to 150,000 INR per month..

    Now I divide it into 3 parts..

    15000 avg = 220 USD

    70000 avg = 1000 USD

    150,000 avg = 2205 USD

    in 220 usd you cannot even eat for whole month in USA.

    in 1000 USD you can eat but you cannot live at the luxruy place as you can do in INDIA.

    2205 Thats the income where you can stay on rent in USA but that will be for life time because you wont be able to save any money to buy home. In India, you ll have everything in this amount…

    Further if we talk about cars… New Cars have very slight difference in prices. some does if they are not getting manufatured in India.. But now we also have jaguar at very nominal prices..

    Although, there old cars are so cheaper and yes the conditions of the cars are very good whether they are from 1980…

    So the conclusion is this if you earn 100 Rs per day in India you can eat and live too but if you will earn 500 INR in USA per day.. You wont be able to eat and even can die outside in winters.

    1. Prithi

      Middle class 15,000 per month!!! You got your numbers wrong.
      My maid makes 20K a month. Drivers make 20K a month!
      which decade are you in?

      Things have changed so much in India. Nobody judges you for going to pub.
      Lot of women even smoke these days. Indians in India have become very progressive. Indians in the US are stuck in the decade in which they left.

      Regarding comforts with facilities like OLA and UBER you can get cabs for very cheap in just a few minutes.
      These days air conditioners are very affordable and even lower middle class people have it.

      With facebook and media you have a club of like minded people for everything here

      I am a US returnee and LOVE India..after living a superficial life in the US for 13 years with conversation limited to weather with other american neighbors and always looking for Indians, I love the spirit of India!

      The only downside here is the roads…dont miss anything otherwise.
      I enjoy hot idlis for breakfast, hot rice and curries for lunch and dinner all by my cook. Company of numerous friends who pop in anytime for a cup of coffee not just a dozen INDIAN friends as in the US, get to meet my parents and spend time with them during their old age, kids just need to step out and play until 8PM with friends…beautiful and scenic locations for vacations all just a few hrs drive…festivals and weddings.
      Humans at the end of the day are social beings. THey is nothing wrong in being interdependent and not being selfish all the time.
      My take on it.

      1. Sharmi

        Hot idly and all foods by your cook is possible to make in usa also and this could not be a valid point. Also 13 years is too long for all the observation you listed.

        1. srini

          idli, you can eat, but the ambience is missing. Its basically what you want. USA is a gilded cage. You will work until you die or your retirement is going to be hell. 10million will only bring in 100K in a year and after retirement, you want to invest in stocks. Once slide into hospitals and you get a bill worth 25k to 600K. insurance will pay 1/3rd…And cost of insurance. ombinable. Its not to say USA is a place of opportunity etc., but once cannot run forever.

    2. Sourav

      Hey Prajjwal Bhardwaj , i don’t think you are getting it right . In us an average person can make $200 or $250 a week . Here in India (My mother land and my father land too ) people like me couldn’t make 10000 per month hardly . So here’s the difference , in us you can make money that will allow you to pay all expenses easily but in India you are making very less money as compared to your expenses etc.
      $1 = 64.7 inr
      So $200 per week is lot of money you can make in usa .

  14. Nandini Jiva

    People say that India is not a great place to live in because of many reasons. And these reasons can surely be removed. But if every one of us in three leaves India just for comfort, how will India prosper? If the bright minds leave, then the country will never change. If someone has a problem with the practises, they should be the change. This is a country, not a hobby that will change in weeks. And I’d rather have a difficult life and give something back to my country and make a change than live in comfort and have no care that my country is in poverty somewhere in the other side of the world.

  15. indianmohankumar

    1/You born with address happly with relations in india but die without address without relations in foreign land.
    2/live in homeland as head instead of living in foriegn land as hair

  16. abc

    WELL…all i can sum up from above comments is that, its totally your choice whether to stay in india or to move US, before surfing this site, i was totally determined to move to US without a single doubt in my mind.I will be moving with my would be… after 2 years. he is already staying in malaysia.He is offered for a handsome job in US ,which he has accepted but will join once he complete the contact with malaysain company,though it was my dream also to move abroad,i had no worries,but after reading this article, i really need to think again, thanks guys to lead me to a great confusion.

  17. jp

    jp:
    india is so poor because of only one reason , that is population because of that all good plan for society went vain and moreover Indians mind are fed-up with ego and Expectation. i feel proud to be an Indian but i feel ashamed to live in this corrupted society. these are major points i have observed are more lagging from Indians
    education,
    discipline,
    honesty
    religious
    caste

  18. Monika

    Well said…. I don’t see enough love among people in India… I’m a doctor …. I hate it… Talk about opportunities.. Life is short people …. Tired of all the drama

  19. Joey

    I am still to figure out why people crave to be in the States. Ac in house, buses, office are all there in India. To me life in US is difficult. There is absolutely no luxury. Luxury to me means having a maid, a cook, a driver. Great parlour services, visiting massage center twice a month. I had all these back home. If you come back home and have to do the cooking utensils cleaning where is the luxury???? And if we talk about food- we cannot survive with burger pr pizza or ready to eat. Moreover, they are not good for health. So you end up having only side with rice or chapatti cause again you do not have time and only millionaires have cook. Where is luxury??

    1. Jatin

      Awesome reply… Luxury and beauty all lies in India 🙂
      US is just a place to earn dollars and go back and enjoy with your family….

    2. vik

      You can get all in US if you are ready to pay for it. Cooking common cant you cook its not that hard. Almost all homes i guess in US comes with stove and Baking oven. Bake your food chicken or meat its more healthy than fried food. As far as breads are concerned you get Indian food everywhere. Get a dishwasher your dishes will be cleaned easily. Yes your right grass is not always greener on other side. I live in NZ i love it here been here for quiet long time . You can make your best life anywhere in world you want. There is a saying you have no choice over your country of birth but you can def have choice where you want to live your life. Cheers

  20. tusharanand

    hey…!!!!!!! u have money to spend on shifting to usa but not have money to buy an ac. ac costs 10-20 thousand rs. and one plane ticket to us cost 50-3,4 lac rs. dude you are not saying right. i live in middle class i have a fully airconditioned car with heater and 2 acs at home. man..

    1. Saurabh

      Dude, most such people don’t spend money to go to the US, their employer might send them. And he is right, someone who can afford a Santro here (without EMI) can afford a BMW 3-series/Honda Accord and the likes (similarly, without EMI’s) – just an example. US is very cheap to live, the amount of money you spend on commodities is a very small fraction of what you earn. Try doing that in India. And don’t even get me started on the orderliness & cleanliness – you just can’t miss it

  21. sk

    Are you serious man? US is not a judgement free zone, people DO judge you based on your skin color (Yes, all those smiles are Fake). As a brown guy it’s so hard for you to date a girl (unless you look like Hrithik roshan) or to make friends in a new town! It doesn’t matter how long you live here, you’ll always have that gilt of being a foreigner. One should really have thick skin to ignore that, in fact most of the Indians do know that they’re not welcomed in USA, but they still ignore that fact and act like they have all the freedom in the world. (Again.. Thick skin!! LOL)

  22. XYZ

    India is also not that bad its just that people(including me also) are not enthusiastic and caring like Americans are for their country

  23. thought process

    if we want to live in luxury independent life america is the best country i have ever seen .And if we are just fulfilling our basic amenities it means we are only fulfilling our needs so we are living in india
    there is a lot of difference between luxury and need
    maruti800 is need
    rolls royal is luxury

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