Coming to US from a very conservative culture, my perception about American nightlife and US women was completely different. I had painted in my mind a different picture about American Women and night life because of the influence created by the media, movies and other factors. My perceptions were not completely true. Let me share some of my thoughts.
What do typical International guys think about American Women and Night Life?
The general perception by guys, who are from conservative cultures like India, about American women is: they are easy to flirt with and may be get laid without any problems. This is NOT completely true. Also, guys or girls back in home country think that most of the guys who come to America get wasted as they hang out with lot of white girls and have fun in the night clubs and stuff. This not completely true too. I do agree there are more things to do in America like Dance clubs, Gentleman clubs and Bars, but the perception is not completely true.
Why do people have different perceptions about US women and life here ?
People have very different perceptions about US women because of the way women are shown in US movies, excess romance scenes, kissing, etc shown in the movies. Also, the clothing worn by American women does not help either because of the short skirts and too much of exposed skin in general dressing. On top of all this, some people who come here tell some false things about American women to their friends just to show off or pretend that they have done something and friends back home think that, “Oh this guy is great he had fun with white girls, etc”. As always bad things spread easily even with few people and it is pure gossip.
What is the actual reality with American Women and Night Life in US?
The reality is, after my experience living in Midwest for a long time, all the stuff that people think back home about American Women and night life is not completely true. Some of it may be true depending on the place and kind of people you meet. But, in general, American women are for the most part same as like other women. The way they dress is different and their thought process is independent. They like to do what they really want to do. Unlike, in conservative cultures women are afraid of doing some things even though they want to do, they back off because of society and culture. It is not completely true that you can walk to a women in bar and get laid just by talking to them. Though, occasionally it may happen, especially in college towns with lot of Undergraduates. Typically American women are very friendly and they move very closely and for them physical contact like hug and kiss on cheek is part of their culture. Internationals from conservative cultures may get creative ideas by this physical gestures and contacts…the reality is nothing happens! It is just part of being friends, so do not think too much. People show off the pictures taken with US girls to their friends back home just to show off that they are enjoying life and doing a lot with girls, but the fact is nothing is happening here other than the pictures J. My whole point is, do not have wrong perceptions about women in US. Personally, I definitely had very wrong perceptions… Do not be misinterpret the photos of guys and girls holding hands together or having hands around each other, etc…It is just part of US culture and they are just being friends without the conservative culture barriers. Also, going out with friends for dancing or just for drinks is just part of being a student or it is culture here. Pictures taken in the bars with friends, etc should not be misinterpreted. Night life in US is just about having fun instead of just sitting idle at home.
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